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Mar22
STRESS PROMOTION: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR
STRESS PROMOTION: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR

Some days we feel overtly stressed! We feel low. We feel helpless.

Given that the other things are fine, what is the reason for this?

If we stop for a while and look into ourselves to find out where exactly this lowliness has crept in our mind from; then often we can trace its source in the comments by family members, neighbors, friends, colleagues, newspapers etc. but most frequently in the contents of advertisements.

With the mind boggling mixing frames, captivating photographic tricks, stupefying music, mesmerizing glamour, thrilling stunts, tempting information, loud and aggressively coaxing message coated in enticing body exposure; the advertisements have an impressive audiovisual impact.

What is the impact? How does it cause the stress of lowliness?

The impact is; “We are deficient, pitiable and miserable, backward, stupid, imperfect, inadequate, impotent, unsatisfied, unhappy, low, unsuccessful, and at high risk; without the product or service; promoted in the advertisement”.

Thus knowingly or unknowingly; we start craving for ‘success toys’, ‘success chocolates’, ‘champion biscuits’, ‘style statement cold drinks’, ‘success foods’, ‘macho underwear’, ‘glamour/beauty soap’, ‘romantic toothpastes’ and so on! We begin to knowingly or unknowingly feel lowly, deprived and hence stressed!

If we buy some of these we are sickeningly proud and arrogant. If we cannot, then we are sickeningly meek and pitiable. In any case we suffer perennially and transmit it; to our family, friends and others.

This stress is further compounded by misinformation about ghee, coconut oil, un-iodized salt, Bengal gram and many other naturally occurring products and germs, apart from many other products and services.

This is the modern and mighty form of what has been referred to as MAYA for millennia! Hence no one escapes the stress; not even the STRESS PROMOTERS themselves!

Hence; ideally; there ought to be implementation of holistic perspective, policies, plans and programs; at all the levels and situations; to rectify this STRESS PROMOTION. But at our own levels we can immunize and detoxify ourselves from such stress; with the most effective vaccine and antidote; the practice and promotion of NAMASMARAN!


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Mar21
YAJNYA, SACRIFICE AND NAMASMARAN: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR
YAJNYA, SACRIFICE AND NAMASMARAN: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR

Are Yajnya, sacrifice and namasmaran synonymous?

Yajnya is offering, sacrifice is also offering and NAMASMARAN is also offering!

Yajnya involves offering of different materials with a specified procedure.

Sacrifice also involves offering of possessions including the near and dear objects and entities.

The NAMASMARAN is a gradual process (of Yajnya and sacrifice) that involves the offering of perspective, thoughts, emotions, passions (instincts); and even the physical needs and existence.

Through NAMASMARAN; one realizes in the course of time; the subjective nature of one’s thoughts, emotions, instincts and material needs; resulting from the internal and external environment; and drops them (just as snake drops his skin) at the lotus feet of the objective consciousness i.e. guru.

The individual thus gets freed of all exasperating vacillations and agonizing burden of subjectivity; and enters into eternal freedom; while merging with NAMASMARAN. There onwards he or she; is assured that all his or her aspirations, duties and missions is being taken care of by objective or cosmic consciousness i.e. Almighty i.e. Guru.

The aspirations, duties and missions; no more remain “his” or “her”! They get freed from the subjective attachment (often resulting fanaticism), infatuations and frustrations; and blossom; into the aspirations of the entire universe (cosmic will); in true sense.

Does this really happen?

Yes. It does! But it is best to verify and tally my conviction and experience; with yours.


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Mar21
YOGA AND STRESS: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR
YOGA AND STRESS: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR

One of the causes of failure in STRESS MANAGEMENT in individual and global life; is; relegating the concept of yoga to mere physical postures, breathing techniques, kriyas and dietary fetish; hyped and sold for mere petty personal gains or gratification of ego! This way we cannot manage the individual and global stress; in the form of deception, deceit, delirium, delusion, despondency, despair, defeat, degeneration, degradation, destruction and devastation!

This trivialization and vulgarization of yoga; is largely because of the influence of reductionist and individualistic way of life; revolving around petty personal benefits.

This is not unnatural and we need not condemn ourselves for this.

However we have the great opportunity, choice and privilege to explore, understand, appreciate and practice yoga in its essence and entirety; as explained below.

Yoga is a connection between right and left cerebral cortex and yoga is also the connection between metabolic, endocrine, autonomic and central nervous activities. It is an overall ascending and integrated process of global perspective, thoughts, emotions, instincts and actions leading to; individual and global blossoming in every sphere of life. Thus it cannot be separated and isolated from:
1. The perspective of global unity and harmony,
2. The thoughts and policies of global welfare,
3. Motivation and concern for global welfare,
4. Mutually gratifying and satisfying instincts
5. Activities conducive to individual and universal blossoming!

Yoga in this sense; largely embodies inner changes (external measurable or countable individual physical benefits being secondary). It becomes possible primarily and principally; by being in its core viz. NAMASMARAN. The other measures, procedures and techniques (including those in hathayoga) are adjuvant.

We have a golden opportunity to study, practice, propagate and universalize NAMASMARAN and verify this; irrespective of our country, religion, ideology, race, tradition, conventions, customs etc; and irrespective of what we think and feel; we are!


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Mar21
DEPRESSION AND ITS HOMEOPATHIC MANAGEMENT
1. What Is Depression?
We all go through ups and downs in our mood occasionally feel blue or sad. Sadness is a normal reaction to life’s struggles, setbacks, and disappointments. But these feelings are usually short-lived and pass within a couple of days, however when emptiness and despair take hold and won't go away, they interfere with daily life and cause pain for both you and those who care about you, it may be depression.
Depression is a state of low mood and aversion to activity that can affect a person's thoughts, behavior, feelings and physical well-being. It may include feelings of sadness, anxiety, emptiness, hopelessness, worthlessness, guilt, irritability, or restlessness.
Depression is a common but serious illness.

2. What causes depression?
The exact cause of depression is not known.
Some illnesses have a specific medical cause, making treatment straightforward. If you have diabetes, you take insulin. If you have appendicitis, you have surgery. But depression is more complicated. Depression is not just the result of a chemical imbalance in the brain, and is not simply cured with medication. Experts believe that depression is caused by a combination of biological, psychological, and social factors. In other words, your lifestyle choices, relationships, and coping skills matter just as much—if not more so—than genetics. However, certain risk factors make you more vulnerable to depression.
Some types of depression tend to run in families. However, depression can occur in people without family histories of depression too. Depression results from the influence of several genes acting together with environmental or other factors. In addition, trauma, loss of a loved one, a difficult relationship, or any stressful situation may trigger a depressive episode. Other depressive episodes may occur with or without an obvious trigger.
Causes and risk factors for depression:
 Loneliness.
 Lack of social support.
 Stressful life experiences such as:
1. Breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
2. Failing a class.
3. Death or illness of loved ones.
4. Divorce.
5. Childhood abuse or neglect.
6. Job loss.
7. Social isolation (common in the elderly), etc.
 Family history of depression.
 Marital or relationship problems.
 Financial strain.
 Early childhood trauma or abuse.
 Alcohol or drug abuse.
 Unemployment or underemployment.
 Certain medical conditions, including underactive thyroid, cancer, or long-term pain.
 Certain medications such as steroids.
 Sleeping problems.

3. What are the different forms of depression?
Depression has various forms and each form has its own unique set of symptoms and signs.
• Major depressive disorder, or major depression, is characterized by a combination of symptoms that interfere with a person's ability to work, sleep, study, eat, and enjoy once-pleasurable activities. Major depression is disabling and prevents a person from functioning normally. Some people may experience only a single episode within their lifetime, but more often a person may have multiple episodes. Left untreated, major depression typically lasts for about six months.

• Atypical depression is a common subtype of major depression. It features a specific symptom pattern, including a temporary mood lift in response to positive events. one may feel better after receiving good news or while out with friends. However, this boost in mood is fleeting. Other symptoms of atypical depression include weight gain, increased appetite, sleeping excessively, a heavy feeling in the arms and legs, and sensitivity to rejection.
• Dysthmia is a type of chronic “low-grade” depression. Dysthymic disorder, or dysthymia, is characterized by long-term (2 years or longer) symptoms that may not be severe enough to disable a person but can prevent normal functioning or feeling well. These chronic symptoms make it very difficult to live life to the fullest or to remember better times. People with dysthymia may also experience one or more episodes of major depression during their lifetimes.
• Minor depression is characterized by having symptoms for 2 weeks or longer that do not meet full criteria for major depression. Without treatment, people with minor depression are at high risk for developing major depressive disorder.
Some forms of depression are slightly different, or they may develop under unique circumstances. However, not everyone agrees on how to characterize and define these forms of depression. They include:
• Psychotic depression, which occurs when a person has severe depression plus some form of psychosis, such as having disturbing false beliefs or a break with reality (delusions), or hearing or seeing upsetting things that others cannot hear or see (hallucinations).
• Postpartum depression, which is much more serious than the "baby blues" that many women experience after giving birth, when hormonal and physical changes and the new responsibility of caring for a newborn can be overwhelming.

• Seasonal affective disorder (SAD), which is characterized by the onset of depression during the winter months, when there is less natural sunlight. The depression generally lifts during spring and summer. Seasonal affective disorder is more common in northern climates and in younger people. Like depression, seasonal affective disorder is treatable. Light therapy, a treatment that involves exposure to bright artificial light, often helps relieve symptoms.

• Bipolar disorder, also called manic-depressive illness, is not as common as major depression or dysthymia. Bipolar disorder is characterized by cycling mood changes—from extreme highs (e.g., mania) to extreme lows (e.g., depression). Episodes of depression alternate with manic episodes, which can include impulsive behavior, hyperactivity, rapid speech, and little to no sleep. Typically, the switch from one mood extreme to the other is gradual, with each manic or depressive episode lasting for at least several weeks. When depressed, a person with bipolar disorder exhibits the usual symptoms of major depression.

4. What are the signs and symptoms of depression?
People with depressive illnesses do not all experience the same symptoms. The severity, frequency, and duration of symptoms vary depending on the individual and his or her particular illness, but there are some common signs and symptoms.
It’s important to remember that these symptoms can be part of life’s normal lows. But the more symptoms you have, the stronger they are, and the longer they’ve lasted—the more likely it is that you’re dealing with depression. When these symptoms are overwhelming and disabling, that's when it's time to seek help.
People who have depression usually see everything with a more negative attitude, unable to imagine that any problem or situation can be solved in a positive way. Depression can appear as anger and discouragement, rather than feelings of sadness.
Signs and symptoms include:
• Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" feelings
• Feelings of hopelessness or pessimism
• Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness harshly criticizing oneself for perceived faults and mistakes.
• Anger, Irritability, restlessness: Feeling agitated, restless, or even violent. Tolerance level is low, temper short, and everything and everyone gets on nerves
• Loss of interest in activities or hobbies once pleasurable, including sex
• Fatigue, decreased energy, sluggish and physically drained out
• Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, and making decisions
• Insomnia, early-morning wakefulness, or excessive sleeping
• Overeating, or appetite loss leading to weight changes.
• Aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems that do not ease even with treatment.
• Reckless behavior: one engages in escapist behavior such as substance abuse, compulsive gambling, reckless driving, or dangerous sports.
• If depression is very severe, there may also be psychotic symptoms, such as hallucinations and delusions.
• Thoughts of suicide, suicide attempts

5. Depression and suicide.
Depression is a major risk factor for suicide. The deep despair and hopelessness that goes along with depression can make suicide feel like the only way to escape the pain. Thoughts of death or suicide are a serious symptom of depression, so take any suicidal talk or behavior seriously. It's not just a warning sign that the person is thinking about suicide: it's a cry for help.
Warning signs of suicide include:
• Talking about killing or harming one’s self
• Expressing strong feelings of hopelessness or being trapped
• An unusual preoccupation with death or dying
• Acting recklessly, as if they have a death wish (e.g. speeding through red lights)
• Calling or visiting people to say goodbye
• Getting affairs in order (giving away prized possessions, tying up loose ends)
• Saying things like “Everyone would be better off without me” or “I want out.”
• A sudden switch from being extremely depressed to acting calm and happy.
If you think a friend or family member is considering suicide, express your concern and seek professional help immediately. Talking openly about suicidal thoughts and feelings can save a life.
If You Are Feeling Suicidal...
When you’re feeling extremely depressed or suicidal, problems don’t seem temporary—they seem overwhelming and permanent. But with time, you will feel better, especially if you reach out for help. If you are feeling suicidal, know that there are many people who want to support you during this difficult time, so please reach out for help!
Always remember suicide is permanent answer for a temporary problem.
Call your doctor right away if:
• You hear voices that are not there.
• You have frequent crying spells with little or no reason.
• Your depression is disrupting work, school, or family life.
• You think that your current medications are not working or are
Causing side effects.
Never change or stop any medications without consulting your doctor.
• If you have thoughts of suicide or harming yourself or others.

6. What illnesses often co-exist with depression?
Other illnesses may come on before depression, cause it, or be a consequence of it. But depression and other illnesses interact differently in different people. In any case, co-occurring illnesses need to be diagnosed and treated.
Anxiety disorders, such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), obsessive-compulsive disorder, panic disorder, social phobia, and generalized anxiety disorder, often accompany depression. PTSD can occur after a person experiences a terrifying event or ordeal, such as a violent assault, a natural disaster, an accident, terrorism or military combat. People experiencing PTSD are especially prone to having co-existing depression.
Alcohol and other substance abuse or dependence may also co-exist with depression.
Depression also may occur with other serious medical illnesses such as heart disease, stroke, cancer, HIV/AIDS, diabetes, and Parkinson's disease. People who have depression along with another medical illness tend to have more severe symptoms of both depression and the medical illness, more difficulty adapting to their medical condition, and more medical costs than those who do not have co-existing depression. Treating the depression can also help improve the outcome of treating the co-occurring illness.

7. How is depression diagnosed?
A doctor generally performs a medical examination and selected investigations to rule out other causes of symptoms. These include blood tests measuring TSH and thyroxin to exclude hypothyroidism; basic electrolytes and serum calcium to rule out a metabolic disturbance; and a full blood count including ESR to rule out a systemic infection or chronic disease. Adverse affective reactions to medications or alcohol misuse are often ruled out, as well. Testosterone levels may be evaluated to diagnose hypogonadism, a cause of depression in men.
Subjective cognitive complaints appear in depressed people, but they can also be indicative of the onset of a dementing disorder, such as Alzheimer's disease. Cognitive testing and brain imaging can help distinguish depression from dementia. A CT scan can exclude brain pathology in those with psychotic, rapid-onset or otherwise unusual symptoms. Investigations are not generally repeated for a subsequent episode unless there is a medical indication.
The diagnosis is confirmed with help of psychological evaluation Standardized questionnaires can be helpful such as the Hamilton Rating Scale for Depression, and the Beck Depression Inventory.

8. How can I help myself and/or a loved one who is depressed?
If you know someone who is depressed, it affects you too. The most important thing you can do is help your friend or relative get a diagnosis and treatment. You may need to make an appointment and go with him or her to see the doctor. Encourage your loved one to stay in treatment, or to seek different treatment if no improvement occurs after 6 to 8 weeks.
To help your friend or relative
• Offer emotional support, understanding, patience, and encouragement.
• Talk to him or her, and listen carefully.
• Never dismiss feelings, but point out realities and offer hope.
• Never ignore comments about suicide, and report them to your loved one's therapist or doctor.
• Invite your loved one out for walks, outings and other activities. Keep trying if he or she declines, but don't push him or her to take on too much too soon.
• Provide assistance in getting to the doctor's appointments.
• Remind your loved one that with time and treatment, the depression will lift.
To Help Yourself
• Do not wait too long to get evaluated or treated. There is research showing the longer one waits, the greater the impairment can be down the road. Try to see a professional as soon as possible.
• Try to be active and exercise. Go to a movie, a ballgame, or another event or activity that you once enjoyed.
• Set realistic goals for yourself.
• Break up large tasks into small ones, set some priorities and do what you can as you can.
• Try to spend time with other people and confide in a trusted friend or relative. Try not to isolate yourself, and let others help you.
• Expect your mood to improve gradually, not immediately. Do not expect to suddenly "snap out of" your depression. Often during treatment for depression, sleep and appetite will begin to improve before your depressed mood lifts.
• Postpone important decisions, such as getting married or divorced or changing jobs, until you feel better. Discuss decisions with others who know you well and have a more objective view of your situation.
• Remember that positive thinking will replace negative thoughts as your depression responds to treatment.
• Continue to educate yourself about depression.
Always remember everything does not get better overnight, but you will be able to enjoy life.

9. Prognosis of Depression.
With proper medication all types of depression can be treated. For people who have repeated episodes of depression, quick and ongoing treatment along with psychotherapy may be needed to prevent more severe, long-term depression. Sometimes people will need to stay on medications for long periods of time.

10. Complications of depression.
People who are depressed are more likely to use alcohol or illegal substances.
Complications of depression also include:
• Increased risk of physical health problems
• Suicide

11. Prevention of Depression.
Do not drink alcohol or use illegal drugs. These substances can make depression worse and might lead to thoughts of suicide.
Take your medication exactly as your doctor instructed. Ask your doctor about the possible side effects and what you should do if you have any. Learn to recognize the early signs that your depression is getting worse.
The following tips might help you feel better:
• Get more exercise
• Maintain good sleep habits
• Seek out activities that bring you pleasure
• Volunteer or get involved in group activities
• Talk to someone you trust about how you are feeling
• Try to be around people who are caring and positive

12. Homeopathic Treatment for Depression.

Homeopathy offers an excellent treatment for all stages of Depression, especially in the early stages. Homeopathy can take care of various symptoms of depression.
Homeopathy can positively influence personality traits that are working at the base of disease.

Homeopathy goes into the depths of depression, and the treatment is thus based on the underlying causes of it. The important aspect is that depression is a disease in which genetic make-up is topped with environmental stress result in disease.

Homeopathic medicines are very deep acting and having potential to counter genetic tendencies. Homeopathy medicines address the root cause of the disease and hence prevent the relapse and recurrence of the condition. Last but not the least; homeopathy medicines are absolutely free from any side-effects as opposed to most of conventional medicines.
The results achieved using from homeopathy can be augmented with supportive measures like counseling and psychotherapy.

Psychotherapy: Several types of psychotherapy—or "talk therapy"—can help people with depression.
Two main types of psychotherapies—cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and interpersonal therapy (IPT)—are effective in treating depression.
Support Groups :
You can often ease the stress of illness by joining a support group whose members share common experiences and problems.


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Mar21
STRESS & NISHKAMA KARMA: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR
STRESS & NISHKAMA KARMA: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR

One of the enigmas of Geeta (Gita) philosophy is NISHKAMA KARMA, which means action without expectation of a particular result. This concept has caused wide spread confusion and stress!

How can we perhaps do anything without expectation of a result, when we see that everything is associated with a result; excepting perhaps involuntary actions and activities during sleep?

The following are some explanations.

1. If we focus on; or get obsessed by a particular result; or start “day dreaming” about it; then it can mar the procedural skills and concentration. Hence we have to do away with such obsession.

2. It is also true that we should not get involved in the result, because it can disappoint us if we don’t get the expected result. This is also fair and pragmatic and can protect us from imminent reactive depression or psychiatric maniacal elation.

3. The successes and failures; and the joy and grief respectively; are hallmarks of our subjectivity. Geeta teaches us to grow from subjectivity to be objectivity, where our actions and results cease to remain personal or subjective. Their credit or discredit are NOT ours! This is what happens when rise above the subjectivity completely. This is NISHKAMA KARMA!

4. Most actions are associated with results, their cause and effect relationship; do not follow a subjective logic. This is especially true of thinking, feelings, motivations, and missions etc, which are inexplicable in terms of their nature (physico-chemical details), interactions, influence and effects. Their nature and results; can not be qualified or quantified by routine gauging and assessment.

5. In short; Geeta (Gita) inspires us to evolve our actions; from crudity, subjectivity and insistence on certain cause and effect relationships; to precision, skills and most importantly; quality of feelings involved viz. objectivity (total selflessness or complete merger of purpose with that of nature or God. In other words; to enlighten our action uniformly in its conceptualization, beginning, and end! This is what makes it free of any subjective reactivity to results!

6. From yet another angle; when our subjectivity dissolves into objectivity, the cosmic wisdom flows through our actions; hence as said earlier; we don’t own any patent right or credit or the onus of failures of such really evolved actions. One such absolutely evolved action is NAMASMARAN (remembering one’s true self). It is a UNIVERSALLY BENEVOLENT NISHKAMA KARMA!

7. From yet another angle; the “soul” or the very purpose of the actions is ISHWAR (God) and the result is MAYA (subjective perceptions)! Dwelling on result is forgetting the soul, the very purpose or ISHWAR (God) of action; and getting lost into MAYA.


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Mar21
STRESS ROMANCE AND RATIONALITY: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR
STRESS ROMANCE AND RATIONALITY: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR

One of the moot questions; is; how do billions of people live throughout with their spouse, till they die? What is the nature of bond between them?

Another moot question is; why and how are millions of people devotees of some body or else and practice some or other kind of religious rituals every day and throughout their life? What is it that motivates the people to devote their lives; for their guru, their deity or their leader? What is it that bonds them with their idol?

The rationalists try to analyze life. But beyond a point; the core of the life viz. the human bonds; cannot be analyzed. We can only experience and appreciate them!

Up to a certain stage of development; romance is a physiological need and hence an unwritten, yet inbuilt goal of life. There is definitely a sense of fulfillment and achievement in life, as and when one falls in love that culminates in a family and later a pedigree! In human beings; this fulfillment has physiological as well as social, religious, and ideological ingredients!

This fulfillment is however; insufficient after a certain stage of development (not necessarily age). Hence the people of various ages and different backgrounds; turn to some one whom they instinctively identify as their own leader, guru or deity; and follow, devote to; or worship him or her; respectively! This is a transition from jismani (physiological) to ruhani (spiritual or divine) mohabbat (romance).

Thus the natural leaders with different intellectual and spiritual stature; are gifted with; an inbuilt “concern” for the people of their race, religion, nation and at a highest stage of their development; for the whole mankind or universe! They and their followers have matching and fitting points in their personalities. They get bonded like the antigen – antibody or receptor – ligand; which bind with high specificity and high affinity.

It is not possible to prove this, but can be appreciated.

What is the role of rationality?

Rationality is important for us; to understand that the stupidity, ignorance and pettiness ditch us into the abyss of individual and global disagreement, discord, degeneration, derangement, disease, decay and destruction; and to reach divine romance, we have to first overcome these basal, barbaric and beastly elements inside us and also outside us!

But since the same rationality often laden with ego; may justify our pettiness; we need to purify it by measures such as NAMASMARAN and ascend from the pettiness to physiological and human romance and there from the divine or universal romance! This is Total Stress Management!


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Mar20
Talking to teen's
TALKING TO TEENS
Teenage is a very sensitive age. Over her the teenager is neither a kid anymore nor a complete grown up. There are lots of changes happening in the body, in the mind as the teenager is unable to control them and neither are the parents. There are a few things that one needs to know about while dealing with them.
ACKNOWLEDGE YOU’RE TEENAGERS FEELING
• Instead of dismissing feelings…Identify thoughts and feelings
• Instead of ignoring feelings…Acknowledge feelings with a word or sound
• Instead of logic and explanation…Give in fantasy what you can not give in reality
• Instead of going against your better judgment…Accept feelings as you redirect unacceptable behavior.
TO ENGAGE A TEENAGERS COOPERATION
• Instead of giving orders…describe the problem
• Instead of attacking the teenager…describe what you feel
• Instead of blaming…give information
• Instead of threats and orders…offer a choice
• Instead of a long lecture…say it in a word
• Instead of pointing out what’s wrong…state your values and/ or expectations
• Instead of angry reprimands…do the unexpected
• Instead of nagging…put it in writing
ALTERNATIVES TO PUNISHMENT
• State your feelings
• State your expectations
• Show how to make amends
• Offer a choice
• Take action
WORKING IT OUT TOGETHER
• Invite your teen to give his point of view
• State your point of view
• Invite them to brain storm with you
• Write down all the ideas-silly or sensible- without evaluating
• Review your list. Decide which ideas you can both agree to and how to put them in action.
WHEN PRAISING TEENS
• Instead of evaluating…describe what you feel
• Instead of evaluating…describe what you see
TALKING ABOUT SEX TO TEENS
• You need to talk to your teen about sex the reason being whether you tell them or not they are going to learn about it. Atleast you would provide them right information.
• Forget the big talk have small talks which could be sparked by something that’s happened to a friend, a piece of television news.
• Try to talk about sex without embarrassment.
• Remember you are aiming for a conversation not an attack.
• Don’t worry if they seem not to listen, this is an important subject to them and you’ll almost certainly have more of their attention than it seems.
• Talk about the emotions as well as the physical process, and explain your beliefs and values.
• Be sensitive to your teenager
• Talk to not only about sex but also about love and commitment.
INTERNET AND TEENS
• Encourage your child to use a chatroom that requires registration the first time you visit.
• Explain that they should never give their password, phone number or email address to somebody they do not know.
• Social networking sites allow children to build up a list of selected friends. Just keep a watch on this list.
• Warn your teenager to be aware of somebody who wants to be too close too soon-perhaps someone asking for personal details.
• Sending photos is fine- to people your teenagers actually known. But remember they should not send it to just an internet friend.
• Tell them to always let you know if somebody has made them feel uneasy- perhaps by inappropriate language or suggestions.
• They should only meet face to face with somebody they have ‘met’ online if they have an adult they trust present and that to in a public place.
• Warn them about chatting online with somebody who is obsessed with secrecy.
• Most teenagers prefer to have computers in their bedroom with internet access this may not be wise.
• Install filtering software that prevents your teenager entering sites that you don’t wish them to.
DEALING WITH DRUGS
• Know about drugs, be ready to spot symptoms.
• Talk about drugs before it’s an issue.
• Know their friends.
• Build their sense of personal value
• Look out for vulnerable moments.
• Allow other adults that you trust to be a support to your child.


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Mar20
STRESS AND COMMUNICATION: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR
STRESS AND COMMUNICATION: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR

One of the most natural, innate, inevitable, inseparable properties of beings; is communication. It goes on amongst; us, birds, animals, plants, organs, tissues, cells and molecules; in body, fetus and mother; and during sleep and dreams. Its nature and various permutations and combinations; are not yet fully understood.

Today we have internet, mobile phones and video conferencing and other speedy means to connect and meet physically. But chat, gossip, flattery, accolades etc; may elevate the mood temporarily and superficially; but cannot reach the soul and cannot accomplish heart to heart communication. Lack of satisfactory communication is a major cause of stress.

The causes of unsatisfactory communication are:

1.The characteristic limitations of our brain, the number of synapses, the synaptic connections, synaptic interactions, neuro-hormones, hormones and autonomic nervous system and environment inside; and outside and apparently remote facts in space and time, which influence our perceptions and hence; “our capacity to share truth”.

2. Moreover; we are engrossed in superficiality and pettiness; and so; are unable to reach our subconscious and unconscious stratums and conscience and the “self”, which is beyond concrete and constant identity. It is not even possible to understand our own and others’ perceptions, feelings, instincts and needs; because they are too subtle and rapidly changing!


3. But apart from the above two reasons; what we share with others; is only after (unknowingly or knowingly) filtering through the doubts about acceptability, fear of condemnation, apprehension about fall in our own evaluation, shyness to accept our “basal aspects” or fear of punishment.

4. There is limitation to our ability to express and also there is limitation to what a language can express.

5. There is a dilemma about what we expect from ourselves; and what we actually do; and causes stress. We try frantically but in vain; to overcome such stress; by “assuming to be” “what we think we should be”. This stress is further complicated by being “torn apart” between; “what others should think/believe us to be” and “what we think we are”! It is actually a stressful shadow fighting because we cannot determine or decide; “what people think or should think; about us.”

But in spite of all these; the simple and inexpensive way of NAMASMARAN; can empower and enable us to reach our core; and accomplish “soul to soul” and not merely “heart to heart” communication. We are fortunate and privileged; to know and verify this!


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Mar19
SPIRITUAL TODDLERS: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR
SPIRITUAL TODDLERS: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR

Why and how has a sinner become a sinner? If he has become a sinner due to previous sins, then why did commit those previous sins? If he was a pious and wise person before he committed sins, then the question becomes even more important and inexplicable!

While attempting to go to the root of sins, one gets frustrated!

Similarly; how much ever; we dig the past; we cannot discover the “why” for “good” fruits and “bad” fruits.

Sometimes the cause is attributed to “stars” and sometimes to God’s will. But the cause of the position of stars and cause of the God’s will; remain a mystery.

The organic evolution and the physical and chemical causes; of the effects or results; are only apparent and superficial causes. They do not deal and/or explain values implied in religions and ethics.

If I get a “good fruit” of my good deeds, in terms of success, then I automatically become the cause of the failure; of the opponent! If I get “good fruit” of profit in my business, then I automatically become the cause of the loss; to someone else.

Having dealt with sins and fruits; the next question is; “How to explain the turmoils created by the earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, tsunamis, hurricanes, tornados, cyclones and so on?”!

So is our search for the causes of our sins and fruits, revolving (endlessly) around subjective (and not real) success/failure and petty victory/defeat?

Can we say that; any event; taking us closer to SELF; is success; and taking away from SELF; is failure? And any act taking us closer to SELF is virtuous; and taking away from SELF; is a sin?

Can we say; that DHARMA is; every activity designed according to one’s age, relationship, skills, talents, time of the day, season, circumstances and so on; to take us closer to SELF or God?

What is the way to identify and practice our DHARMA?

Sadguru Shri Brahmachaitanya Gondavlekar Maharaj says that; continuous practice of NAMASMARAN and connection with (and expression from) SELF (God); is DHARMA; the most virtuous, meritorious and the best gain in life! Absence of this; is sin and failure. We the spiritual toddlers; can find respite in this; through; or in spite of our ideologies, religions, missions, organizations, politics, businesses, institutions etc.


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Mar18
ACTION AGAINST CORRUPTION DR SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR
ACTION AGAINST CORRUPTION DR SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR
Corruption probably cannot be eradicated, as it is a human weakness. Theoretically; even if it is eradicated today completely; it is going to re-surge; through the new generation.

But it can certainly be brought down to “least troublesome” level. For this; we need to rectify, repair, restore, regenerate, rejuvenate and effectively blossom the ROOTS of global perspective and global conscience; maximally! For this; we have to break open the throttling shackles, restricting the space of our consciousness and minimize the corruption of our perspective, thinking, feelings and actions!

This can be done if we study the scope and potential of NAMASMARAN as is done in Total Stress Management; and practice and propagate it as a common minimum program for blossoming of an individual and the mankind.

Is this not happening at all?
It is happening.
Actually; many theists practicing, promoting and propagating NAMASMARAN as well as the many atheists not practicing NAMASMARAN; do NOT have this perspective. Hence they may appear opposed to this idea. But actually; their actions; though piecemeal in approach; are complementary and hence contribute to Total Stress Management. For example; they provide the fervor, motivation and driving force; and analytical, operational and technological capability respectively! Of course; they often do this unknowingly and are unaware of the fact that they are serving the cosmic plan!
But this is far from being enough.

For an effective ACTION AGAINST CORRUPTION; we have to take note of the qualities; by virtue of which corrupt people; have been proving victorious over HOLISTIC RENAISSANCE, SUPERLIVING i.e. Total Stress Management!

The qualities of the corrupt people are many! Some of these qualities are; leadership, clarity, focus, seriousness, courage, commitment, lack of inhibition and preparedness to face any consequences for their action, patience, shrewdness and planning. They have no weakness in terms of compromising with goal! They do not pardon anybody going astray.
They are ready to take any risk and stake not only their own, but their family’s life in their goal.
If we introspect honestly; then we would certainly admit; at least to ourselves; that we lack many of these qualities. We lack clarity, focus, seriousness, courage, commitment, lack of inhibition and preparedness to face any consequences for our action. Further; we lack patience, shrewdness and planning. We keep compromising with our goal! While they do not pardon anybody going astray from their goal we not only pardon, but actually leak the feet of our friends going away from our goal of “action against corruption”!!
We are NOT ready to take any risk and stake nothing! Forget about life, we are NOT ready to give any time, energy or money for; what we call as our goal viz. ACTION AGAINST CORRUPTION.
If we study and propagate the concept of Total Stress Management i.e. holistic renaissance or superliving (the core of which is NAMASMARAN) to merely 10 persons in a day only once; then in 10 days it would go across the whole mankind as a weapon for the action against corruption; as follows.
• 1x10=10
• 10x10=100
• 100x10=1000
• 1000x10=10000
• 10000x10=100000
• 100000x10=1000000
• 1000000x10=10000000
• 10000000x10=100000000
• 100000000x10=1000000000
• 1000000000x10=10000000000
But this is what can happen if we wish. In any case; Total Stress Management i.e. holistic renaissance or superliving (the core of which is NAMASMARAN); whatever be the semantics; is writing on wall. It is an incoming thing irrespective of our wish and will!! It is our fortune and privilege; if we understand and participate in it!

References:
1. Stress: Understanding and Management; Dr. Shriniwas Janardan Kashalikar
2. Namasmaran: Dr. Shriniwas Janardan Kashalikar
3. Smiling Sun: Dr. Shriniwas Janardan Kashalikar
4. Conceptual Stress: Dr. Shriniwas Janardan Kashalikar
5. New Study of Bhagavad Geeta: Dr. Shriniwas Janardan Kashalikar
6. Holistic Medicine: Dr. Shriniwas Janardan Kashalikar
7. Holistic Health: Dr. Shriniwas Janardan Kashalikar
8. Namasmaran (Marathi): Dr. Shriniwas Janardan Kashalikar
9. Tanavmukti (Marathi): Dr. Shriniwas Janardan Kashalikar (Assistance Dr. Suhas Mhetre)
10. Bhovara (Marathi): Dr. Shriniwas Janardan Kashalikar
11. Sahasranetra (Comprehension of Vishnusahasranam; Marathi): Dr. Shriniwas Janardan Kashalikar
12. Thakawa Ghalwa (Marathi): Dr. Shriniwas Janardan Kashalikar
13. Tanavmuktisathi Upayukta Lekh (Marathi): Dr. Shriniwas Janardan Kashalikar
14. SUPERLIVING: (English) Dr. Shriniwas Kashalikar
15. SUPERLIVING: (Marathi) Dr. Shriniwas Kashalikar


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