STRESS AND COMMUNICATION: DR. SHRINIWAS KASHALIKAR

One of the most natural, innate, inevitable, inseparable properties of beings; is communication. It goes on amongst; us, birds, animals, plants, organs, tissues, cells and molecules; in body, fetus and mother; and during sleep and dreams. Its nature and various permutations and combinations; are not yet fully understood.

Today we have internet, mobile phones and video conferencing and other speedy means to connect and meet physically. But chat, gossip, flattery, accolades etc; may elevate the mood temporarily and superficially; but cannot reach the soul and cannot accomplish heart to heart communication. Lack of satisfactory communication is a major cause of stress.

The causes of unsatisfactory communication are:

1.The characteristic limitations of our brain, the number of synapses, the synaptic connections, synaptic interactions, neuro-hormones, hormones and autonomic nervous system and environment inside; and outside and apparently remote facts in space and time, which influence our perceptions and hence; �our capacity to share truth�.

2. Moreover; we are engrossed in superficiality and pettiness; and so; are unable to reach our subconscious and unconscious stratums and conscience and the �self�, which is beyond concrete and constant identity. It is not even possible to understand our own and others� perceptions, feelings, instincts and needs; because they are too subtle and rapidly changing!


3. But apart from the above two reasons; what we share with others; is only after (unknowingly or knowingly) filtering through the doubts about acceptability, fear of condemnation, apprehension about fall in our own evaluation, shyness to accept our �basal aspects� or fear of punishment.

4. There is limitation to our ability to express and also there is limitation to what a language can express.

5. There is a dilemma about what we expect from ourselves; and what we actually do; and causes stress. We try frantically but in vain; to overcome such stress; by �assuming to be� �what we think we should be�. This stress is further complicated by being �torn apart� between; �what others should think/believe us to be� and �what we think we are�! It is actually a stressful shadow fighting because we cannot determine or decide; �what people think or should think; about us.�

But in spite of all these; the simple and inexpensive way of NAMASMARAN; can empower and enable us to reach our core; and accomplish �soul to soul� and not merely �heart to heart� communication. We are fortunate and privileged; to know and verify this!